Many leaders fall into the trap of completing this phrase the traditional way: “If you want something done right, do it yourself!” However, in today’s collaborative and inclusive workplace, this mindset is not just outdated—it’s detrimental to team development, psychological safety, and organizational success.
As a DEI and change management specialist, I’ve learned that this attitude can particularly harm underrepresented team members who may already feel their capabilities are being questioned.
The enlightened way to complete this phrase is: “If you want something done right, teach someone how to do it.” This approach transforms leadership from a position of control to one of empowerment and mentorship. Here’s how to make this shift effectively in our modern workplace:
1. Embrace the Power of Repetitive Learning – Whether at home teaching my son about kitchen organization or guiding a diverse project team through new processes, I’ve learned that repetition isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a crucial part of the learning process. In fact, neuroscience shows that repeated exposure helps create stronger neural pathways. Create an environment where asking for clarification is encouraged and where “refresher orientations” are normalized. Remember: even the most successful training programs include regular reinforcement.
2. Recognize Different Forms of Teaching – While formal training has its place, some of the most effective teaching happens through modeling and experiential learning. Just as I learned the art of perfect scrambled eggs by watching my husband’s technique, team members often learn best through demonstration and hands-on experience. In today’s hybrid work environment, this might mean recording video demonstrations, creating visual guides, or utilizing collaborative digital tools that allow for real-time observation and feedback.
3. Practice Inclusive Teaching Methods – Understanding and accommodating different learning styles is no longer just good practice—it’s essential for equity and inclusion. Consider:
– Auditory learners (verbal instructions, discussion)
– Visual learners (demonstrations, diagrams, videos)
– Tactile learners (hands-on practice, interactive exercises)
– Neurodivergent team members who may process information differently
By adapting your teaching style to meet diverse needs, you create an inclusive environment where everyone can succeed. Remember, accessibility in learning isn’t optional—it’s fundamental to effective leadership.
4. Accept That Excellence Comes Through Delegation – The myth of the superhero leader who does everything perfectly is not just unrealistic—it’s harmful to organizational growth and innovation. True leadership excellence comes from:
– Building capable, confident teams
– Creating systems that don’t depend on any single person
– Fostering an environment where mistakes are viewed as learning opportunities
– Celebrating diverse approaches to problem-solving
– Developing future leaders through mentorship and coaching
When you try to do everything yourself, you not only risk burnout but also deny others the opportunity to grow and contribute their unique perspectives and talents. In today’s rapidly evolving workplace, the most successful leaders are those who excel at developing others rather than trying to be the expert at everything.
Remember: Your role as a leader isn’t to be perfect—it’s to create an environment where others can develop their potential and contribute their best work. By shifting from “doing it yourself” to teaching others effectively, you build stronger, more resilient teams and organizations that can adapt and thrive in our changing world.
